RESCUING OUR CHILDREN: WHO IS IN CONTROL?
Not only is a parent to realize that they are to act with the delegated authority given to them by God, but they are to regulate and guide their child in what they do. With authority in place, they are to set boundaries and limits that help restrain the child from their tendency to sin. Proverbs 29:15b states, “a child who gets his own way brings shame to his mother.”
Placing controls on your child to help them deal with sin is for the protection of the child and is the orderly administration of life itself. Your child needs such controls until they can demonstrate the maturity to be without them. When you release a child too soon from the control and boundaries set for them, there are always consequences.
These controls are needed to help them fight two forms of rebellion:
- Active rebellion where the child will not listen or accept instruction. This includes tantrums, defiant “no”, walk away, or ignoring their parent.
- Passive rebellion where the external requirements for obedience were met but they showed obvious internal resentment. This includes showing disgust or indifference. They even may have listened politely to the instruction or request and then failed to follow through with the action.
The way to deal with this is through conviction, instruction, training and correction with God’s Word as your guide. That is what I will continue with tomorrow.