RESCUING OUR CHILDREN: TRAINING TO PRODUCE THE PEACEFUL FRUIT OF RIGHTEOUSNESS
I took a different direction for class today than I had originally planned after prayer and thought. It seemed we needed to drill a bit deeper into the concept of training our children and the use of correction. So this week in the posts, I will head in that direction.
By correction I mean an instrument that enhances the instruction and training of a child. The rod of correction is meant for foolishness which is when a child has rejected the instruction and training that a parent or legitimate authority in their life has given.
The biggest mistake that parents make in the discipline process of their child is that they do not train them. 2 Timothy 3:16 informs us that the Word of God is not just for instruction, but also trains and corrects us. Training consists of taking instruction and then applying it to the child to develop the instruction into a habit. Once accomplished, the child becomes “fully trained” in the task.
An example of this process is telling your child to clean their room. What do you mean by clean? A training session would consist of showing the child how to clean their room and what you clearly mean by what defines a clean room. It is showing and repeating with the child the tasks involved. It may take a few times but eventually they will be “fully trained” so that when told to clean their room, the command is clear and understood. So should they not do so, it is a deliberate action of rebellion and classified as foolish.
Another example may be calling your child to the dinner table. This should only have to be done once and given a few minutes to respond, the child should obey. To train them may consist of dad sitting with the child before dinner and when mom makes the call to be at the table in 5 minutes, dad shows the child what they need to do at that point. It might consist of turning off media devices, putting toys away and then proceeding to the table. Dad can make a game out it and repeat the actions several times to let the idea sink in of being “fully trained” so mom does not have to repeat the call. Once done and the child does not respond as trained, it is a deliberate foolish act calling for correction.
(Next post will be the beginning of several posts on correcting foolishness biblically and spotlighting the gospel in the process)