GOT KIDS? Proverbs and the Family
Proverbs has much to say about the roles of everyone in the family. God has designed these roles so that they would be harmonious and represent the intimacy of the relationship that the Godhead has within and the relationship the Godhead has outside of itself with us.
The next 3 days I will break down the relationships into 3 categories:
The relationship of a husband and wife
The relationship of children to their parents
The relationship of parents to their children
Today: A husband and wife show they are growing in wisdom when they are moving toward each other in Christ.
Proverbs 31:10-31 is often viewed as an overwhelming description of a godly woman and a call for all women to be like this one. However, lets begin again with the author’s intention here. Remember that Proverbs was written for the king’s son. This being so, Proverbs 31 tells the son what kind of woman he needs to find. Verse 10 begins, An excellent wife who can find? Certainly a woman should want to aspire to being an excellent one, but the intention of the Proverb is for the king’s search.
Let’s look at the “excellent wife.” First of all the word translated in the ESV as excellent literally means “strength.” In the ancient Greek translation of the Hebrew Scriptures (Septuagint) the word is translated as “A manly woman.” The same term is used in verse 17, She dresses herself with strength and makes her arms strong.
There are two summary statements we can give to this woman:
- She knows who she is and does not wonder about herself
- She gives of herself to her family, friends, and to her community
Now what is probably the main reason she is this kind of woman. My proposal from this Proverb is first of all from verse 30 that she is praised because she fears the Lord. Second is that she is surrounded by continual praise that begins with a husband who does so.
A husband by definition of the word is to be a cultivator and nurturer as is implied by the agricultural term of husbandry. And how does he cultivate his wife so she is enabled to be such a woman? See verses 28, 29 “… her husband also (rises and blesses her) and he praises her: “Many woman have done excellently, but you surpass them all.” Verse 28 also states that Her children rise up can call her blessed. And where do you think children learn to rise up and bless their mom … it is by you dad!
Men, how is the praising of your wife going? Are your kids not showing respect to their mom? If so, are you looking at your example first? Can’t think of what to praise your wife about? If so, can it be that she would be more enabled to be praised if you would start to praise her?
Tomorrow: Children showing wisdom to their parents