GOT KIDS? Children Grow in Wisdom When …
Your children will grow in wisdom as they move toward you, the parent. We start here with the fundamental commandment to children, “Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be long in the land the Lord your God is giving you.” Ephesians 6 points out that this is the first commandment with a promise. Living long in the land does not equate to longevity of breath but “living” is referring to the quality of life as you sit under the blessing of God’s pleasure. In other words, life will go better for you if you honor your father and mother. In situations over the past 30 years when I have been asked to talk with “foolish” children/teens, this is where I start with them. It is amazing how many after a few weeks of changing their direction with their parents find that God is faithful: when disobedient or acting foolish to their parents, life is miserable and when they honor their parents, life seems to go well.
Proverbs clearly divides for the child how they move to their parent or move away. Proverb 15:20 states, “A wise son makes a glad father, but a foolish man despises his mother.” 20:20 states, “If one curses his father or his mother, his lamp will be put out in utter darkness.” To despise is the close opposite of honor. To honor means to literally give value, worth or weight. To despise is to treat as though the object has no value or is worthless. To curse does not refer directly using four-letter words but is a general term to mean that you treat in a lowly manner.
The burden is on the child to honor their father and mother and to learn that it is owed to them to do so by what God has done for them. The parent’s burden is not to think that they have to earn a child’s respect. It is part of God’s design for order and wisdom in the creation. However, the wise parent by moving to their child in wisdom (remembering that Christ first is their wisdom), gives them a model and motivation to do likewise.
The next post is on that topic.