GOT KIDS? Proverbs and Picking Your Friends
This week in our Got Kids? Proverbs for Parenting class we covered the topic of companions or friends. In defining wisdom, we know that ultimately Jesus Christ defines wisdom as he is our wisdom and the wisdom of God (1 Cor 1:24, 30). In another sense, wisdom is the skill of living and making choices that are in accordance with God’s Word even when there is not an obvious rule to go by in that situation.
Relationships are always complicated and call for wisdom. The model for friendship is found first in the relationship that God has within himself in the Trinity and the relationship that God has established with us. God commits himself to us as believers as in Exodus 33:11 he states, “I will be with you.” Jesus also states in John 15:15 that he is committed to us in friendship.
Proverbs provides much guidance in the area of companionship as emphasizes the importance and influence of them. Proverbs 20:6 tells us that faithful friends are really hard to find. John 13:1 states that Jesus loved his disciples to the end and such love is rare in us.
The importance of parents bringing wisdom to their children in the area of friends is found back in some of the lessons on the fool and the influence we have on one another. We as parents should always assume the fool in our children and ourselves. At best we make several decisions each day as simple fools and other decisions in the area of being the fool.
The reality in most situations of the family is that as our children grow older, they are hearing other voices and beginning a process of breaking away from the nurturing care of their parents. The influence of peers and other models of life are impacting their decisions and conflicts of ethics set in. Your children will be influenced by their friends and so guiding and providing wise counsel is absolutely necessary.
Tomorrow I will give some indicators from Proverbs to look for in the character of your children and in their friends to look for. Remember that you cannot pick your family but you can pick your friends.